A Blue Feather on February 24^th                                                                                                  

            Today marks the twenty-first month since my son, Alex, passed away due to job-related brain cancer. I chronicled his struggle, and our family’s as well, in my memoir Tumor Me, The Story of My Firefighter. The memoir was tremendously important for me to write because it helped me to process my grief, at least a bit.

I also wanted Alex’s story “out there” for folks who have been affected in any way by brain cancer or other cancers; I wanted to reach mothers, fathers, brothers, and sisters who have experienced such loss; I wanted to reach firefighters and doctors, nurses and caretakers; I wanted to reach moms who, like me, have broken hearts. I wanted to reach readers and writers. I wanted to touch the very spirit of those who can understand.

I have had some remarkable reviews and lovely responses from many people who have read the book. Today, of ALL days, I received this thoughtful note that was sent to my husband’s office. It’s what I call a “blue feather” -- an unexpected and pleasant surprise. I decided it to share it on my blog.

    Dear Judith,

Our daughter sees your husband (optometrist). She saw this book at the office and sent it for Christmas.

                        From a mom, to you Mom Judith, you get an A+ on love and support

            and caring. He was your little Firefighter Prince and your precious,

            ill and dying firefighter. I was in awe of your strength, facing challenges

            and, yes, crashing. How very hard on all your family. Alex was a blessing

            and I LOVE the title. Alex gave much to his family, you all and his fire

            family. They’ve all walked your journey with you. Thanks to God for

            Alex and for the rich cover of love from your family.

                        I observe the hummingbirds out my kitchen pie window. They love

            the Bird of Paradise. I’ll watch for Alex. I know he’s been here and I wasn’t

            aware enough to recognize him. Now I am.

                        What a gift you are.

                                                            Sending Love,

                                                                        D. H.

My sincere thanks to a woman I do not know personally, for taking the time to write and send this note. I am honored to have made this connection, however distant. 

Tumor Me, The Story of My Firefighter is available on Amazon.com or can be ordered through any bookstore. It has not sold millions by any means, but I am so pleased to hear that those who have read it have been moved by its message.